Need some advice?

I am about to get a divorce and my husband never gave our kids anything when we was together, I always buy the clothes food take them to the doctor and dentist paid for health insurance for the family now that we have been separted he doesn;t want t paid chld support. our court day is comng in APril and now he is buy them cell phone laptop taking them to piston game buying t-hirt for them at the game, books games . Does all these these maintain to him no paing child support . the children reside with me and always have. My lawyer told me he will paid just be patience. I reall him he buying them.. Does this go toward child s upport the material things he is buying? I buy their clother for school. basic I do evertyhing Need some advice because it is bother me dearly.

Need some advice?
What ever he's buying them doesn't have anything to do with child support. Just let the children enjoy what their so called father is buying them. The court looks at what's happened from begining to end. Don't worry about this one. The bum will either pay child support or end up in jail. Just be sure you know what his Social Security number is? Makes it easier to locate him. Good luck
Reply:NO...buy gifts does not constitute child support. You need to go to your local child support enforcement agency and start the ball rolling to receive child support.
Reply:no..those are gifts...child support payments are totally different.
Reply:He is just trying to test you or to put the kids in the middle of the attention. Maybe he feels guilty. Let the attorney handle it. Just keep records of everything for him. He will have to pay the support no matter what he is buying right now. Our son pays support yet has been told to buy diapers and other things for the child. We don't see the child at all. We are forbidden by the mother. So sometimes you just have to deal with what you have it will work out. Trust your attorney to get what's right by the law. Just don't put the kids in the middle.
Reply:No my dear that does not go towards child support. In his mind he may think it does but it does not. Don't be surprise if he shows up to court with all receipts on what he has spent. You need to show up with your health insurance receipts, clothes receipt and what ever kind of receipt to court and especially the ones that date from way back then. He will only be able to show receipt of recently and the judge will see right through it. But anyway, that has nothing to do with child support money. If he is to pay he will pay. The judge will see to that.
Reply:He will probably still have to pay child support. Listen to your lawyer. The things your husband is buying for his children will probably be taken into account, but be sure to present your fiscal contributions to your children's well being to the jury when you come to court in order to prove that you have been the one taking care of the children all along, not him. The jury needs to be made aware that he is simply trying to gain "brownie points" (if you will) in order to get out of paying for child support.
Reply:Nope. What he's trying to buy is your trust in him. He's buying gifts. The court will tell him what he is to pay in child support -- that money goes directly to you to purchase food, clothing, etc. for the children.... not tickets to Pistons games and not laptop computers.





He's trying to buy their love -- explain to them that just because he's doing this doesn't make him any different than he was before.





Stick to your guns and make sure that your lawyer has the child support amount taken from his paychecks.





Good luck.
Reply:no. gifts are gifts. child support is light, heat, food, housing etc. Listen to your lawyer.





I say do NOT explain this to your children... Let them have their own relationship with him.... be your own reliable self.


Even if you hate him, allow your children their own relationship... genetically speaking, they are half of him... don't insult your children. With time, they will see the truth.
Reply:From what i understand is that he will still be obligated to give you child support to provide them w/ the basic materials, what he buys them is his gifts to them, but i would check w/ your lawyer or the state you reside in laws.
Reply:The man could buy each kid a 100K sports car and it will still not cancel his obligation to pay child support. He will have to pay or else the court will enforce the order.

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