How do i get over being jealous of my new husband's 1st family?

"tom" was married before for 5 yrs with a 8 yr old son.tom allways has money and time for his 1st family but with me hes allways to "busy" and broke. here are just some examples.whenever toms ex calls(which is often) and wants him to take his son to the dentist,DR's ect he drops everything for her.But if i ask if he can take time off from work to help me he never can.If his ex calls for extra money(he already pays her what the court orders and then some) he allways come up with it but if i want to go out to eat(which is about once a month) he tells me hes broke.I don't want to sound like an evil stepmom as i love his son i just wish tom showed as much interest in me as his 1st family.

How do i get over being jealous of my new husband's 1st family?
get another interest. a job, take some college classes, get a new hobby, find some new friends, start walking, start dialoging.....
Reply:why did he even get divorced in the first place? If he's that dedicated to his ex wife, then he should never have gotten remarried because he wasnt ready to move on. Sorry you're getting the short end of the stick. Have you thought about marriage counselling?
Reply:obviously you're his new wife...and he cares about you...but you should still talk to him about how you feel..don't keep those emotions bottled up inside..
Reply:I think you both need to talk about this and come up with some compromises. I can't blame the guy for wanting to help out his kid as much as he can, but he needs to understand that he has responsibilities to you. Conversely, I don't know what your work/financial situation is, but if you want to grab the occassional night out, can YOU pay for it?





Obviously, I don't know the inner workings of your relationship, but it does sound like there's room for both of you to compromise. I don't think you sound jealous, by the way. As "Tom's" new wife, you SHOULD be A priority for him TOO!





Good luck with everything!

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