How do I deal with my fiances family???

Ok, he is 23 yrs old. He has a gma and a mother that calls him several times a day, and they are getting on his last nerve. They call for the stupidest things, and actually try to tell him to cut his hair, and what to eat, when to look for a job, calls to see if he went to the dentist.... i mean come on....can anyone relate or give me some advice to give 2 him? what do i do to try to distance them all from each other?? they are so aggervating...it really is bad, no kidding.

How do I deal with my fiances family???
i hate to tell you this but if they have been doing it for this long, chances are they wont stop and it will affect your relationship.... they seem a bit controlling.. like they would come over to clean or decorate your place.. or try and name your kids.. i feel for you... that doesnt sound like a good situation
Reply:This is his problem and he knows what to do and if he doesn't take care of it, things will get rotten when you marry.
Reply:He needs to be the one to say something. Obviously it doesn't bother him enough or he already would have spoken up to them.
Reply:Well the family will ALWAYS be there no matter what but I can understand how they can be. Ive been there and one that. Not to disrespect the family memeber, I always cut the conversation short, not pick up every call, or not call them as often. Good Luck I know how tough this can be.
Reply:He's been dealing with this for 23 years of his life, so don't expect to step right in and create that distance overnight. What is his reaction when he gets a call telling him to cut his hair? Is he man enough to tell them it's not something for them to decide and if they want to manage his life, he has no time for them? Or does he whine and fuss and eventually agree to what they say?





He's 23 years old. I know some 23 yr. olds who are very mature and responsible. I know others who act like 15 yr olds. How do you view him?





It won't happen overnight, but once he starts changing his responses to their actions, eventually you can expect different results.
Reply:Thank you...


Oh, the dam agony. People like that just irratate me although there are several ways to deal with these types of nosey people that claim to be concerned. I honestly don't like to deal with people like that, I just stay away and they eventually get the point which leaves no room for them to reach a conversation to say anything to me.


Sometimes people need the cold shoulder, when they notice they are only pushing you away they ZIP it..That way your not rude plus anytime you keep them updated with your wrongs and right people always feel the need to correct you instead of themselves....
Reply:It's easy, get an answering machine and stop taking the calls several times a day. This is his problem to solve, if he doesn't have what it takes to assert his independence then you better rethink this relationship. This question comes up in questions from first dating to been married for 15 years, if he won't stop it you can't. He needs to sit down and explain to them he is capable of running his own life. If he won't do it now, run, do not walk to the nearest exit.

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